Maintaining your romantic
relationships during the pandemic can be challenging. Regardless of whether you
are living together (and have too much togetherness) or are striving to
make meaningful connections while you are too far apart — this can be a very
meaningful time in your relationship.
Before quickly jumping to
conclusions, first make sure you are taking the very best care of you. What
have you been feeding your mind, body and spirit? Are you moving your body and
getting enjoyable exercise? How are you expressing your creativity? Comfort
food and activities are nice and so it trying something new and different.
Next, when reviewing your
relationship, make sure to start with patience and compassion. We are all
getting triggered on one level or another. Be aware of this. Be careful not to
get too stuck in your head and over analyze yourself to craziness. For the most
honest feedback, feel into your connection from a loving place when you are
calm and well rested.
Add in some “new ways” to connect.
Maybe it is a glass of wine shared or a game played over a video call. Or light
a candle and watch an old movie you both love. Take a walk or go for a bike
ride in nature. Reminisce about the interesting details about how and where you
first met and fell in love. Get started with something simple, and one idea can
lead to another. Take turns coming up with fun ways to spend time with one
When you identify concerns, find a
good time and place to discuss this with your partner. But first check in with
them about their day and their concerns. If it is a good time, explain how you
feel and ask for a conversation starter. You do not need to figure everything
out all at once. If emotions start running high, take a break and start again
after you rest and take some time apart.
This unique time adds new pressures
on all of us. We will find out how much we really love this person and
rediscover a deep respect and admiration through laughter and silly fun. Or, we
may determine that we finally need to come clean and admit that this is not
working out — and admit to yourself and the other person that you both deserve
When you trust your inner knowing
(intuition), you will gain a lot of awareness. Keep checking in with yourself,
and over time you will find that when you have a concern you will be able to
find your trusted guidance more quickly.
Due to this pandemic,
you may feel like your relationships are in a unique place right now. Many
couples who don’t live together may find that you cannot see each other as
often. Likewise, couples who do live together may find it challenging to adjust
to spending even more time together at home. Learn how you and your
partner can continue to grow your connection during these
Couples Who Live Apart
Couples who live apart
can still stay connected while practicing responsible social distancing. When
deciding on how you will connect during this time, there are a few questions to
ask your partner:
- How often should we see each
- How can we practice safe social
distancing while seeing each other?
- Should we wait to see each
other in person?
- What ways do you like to
connect while being apart?
understanding of how you both plan on connecting is an important part of
staying on the same page when living through this pandemic. You and your
partner may decide it’s best to wait to see each other in person later. If you
decide this, you can connect through video chat or phone call. You could also
get creative and send each other handwritten letters or
Couples Who Live Together
Couples who live
together may begin to feel bored with the monotony of staying home every day.
Shake things up by figuring out how well you know your partner. Use
this as a time to ask each other deep questions to learn even
more about one another. Here are some interesting questions to ask:
- What is your first memory?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
- Do you think everything happens
for a reason?
- What has our relationship
This pandemic may
create obstacles for all kinds of couples. The main thing to remember during
these times is that you and your partner need to regularly communicate
and check in with each other.
Soul sex takes
intimacy to another level. This type of experience is deeply fulfilling and
helps you form a stronger, deeper connection with your partner.
What Is Soul Sex?
Soul sex takes your
intimate experiences beyond the physical realm into something deeper.
Emotional lovemaking gets you closer to soul sex, but this level of
spiritual intimacy transcends even a deeply emotional sexual encounter. Soul
lovemaking feeds the deep desires of your inner spiritual being, allowing you
to connect with your partner at the soul level.
How to Have Soul Sex
Connecting sex and
soul can be challenging, especially if you’re in the habit of putting on a
physical performance or thinking about pleasing your partner. When you’re
sex, you let go of surface concerns like how you look or what to do
with your body next. You form a deep soul connection with your partner and act
from a place of knowing at your root that you’re serving your highest good. You
may need to work on healing your soul before you can
engage in enriching soul sex with someone else.
Some ways you can slip
into a more soulful sexual experience include:
- Looking into your partner’s
eyes: Look deeply into your
partner’s eyes and hold their gaze. This helps you connect with one
another beyond the purely physical realm.
- Considering your feelings: Check in with your emotions. Stop anything that
makes you feel self-conscious, concerned, or dissatisfied. Pursue only
those things that are deeply fulfilling.
- Slowing down to reconnect: Step away from the race to climax and stay in the
current moment. If you find yourself drifting away from the present, slow
down, step back, and return to a period of foreplay until you feel you’ve
Enjoying the deep
intimacy of soul sex is something you may need to work on with your partner
until you feel you’re both achieving a sense of deep connection.