Maintaining your romantic
relationships during the pandemic can be challenging. Regardless of whether you
are living together (and have too much togetherness) or are striving to
make meaningful connections while you are too far apart — this can be a very
meaningful time in your relationship.
Before quickly jumping to
conclusions, first make sure you are taking the very best care of you. What
have you been feeding your mind, body and spirit? Are you moving your body and
getting enjoyable exercise? How are you expressing your creativity? Comfort
food and activities are nice and so it trying something new and different.
Next, when reviewing your
relationship, make sure to start with patience and compassion. We are all
getting triggered on one level or another. Be aware of this. Be careful not to
get too stuck in your head and over analyze yourself to craziness. For the most
honest feedback, feel into your connection from a loving place when you are
calm and well rested.
Add in some “new ways” to connect.
Maybe it is a glass of wine shared or a game played over a video call. Or light
a candle and watch an old movie you both love. Take a walk or go for a bike
ride in nature. Reminisce about the interesting details about how and where you
first met and fell in love. Get started with something simple, and one idea can
lead to another. Take turns coming up with fun ways to spend time with one
When you identify concerns, find a
good time and place to discuss this with your partner. But first check in with
them about their day and their concerns. If it is a good time, explain how you
feel and ask for a conversation starter. You do not need to figure everything
out all at once. If emotions start running high, take a break and start again
after you rest and take some time apart.
This unique time adds new pressures
on all of us. We will find out how much we really love this person and
rediscover a deep respect and admiration through laughter and silly fun. Or, we
may determine that we finally need to come clean and admit that this is not
working out — and admit to yourself and the other person that you both deserve
When you trust your inner knowing
(intuition), you will gain a lot of awareness. Keep checking in with yourself,
and over time you will find that when you have a concern you will be able to
find your trusted guidance more quickly.
Are you single and confused
about moving forward with love during this Pandemic — with so much closed and
restricted, and with social distancing and beyond? Instead of dwelling on
frustrations and limitations, consider focusing on “out of the box,” positive
solutions. Here are some ideas!
- Start with YOU
Now is a great time to pause, take a series of
deep breaths, and do a super deep dive into taking care of you! Start by
being very honest about how you feel. Let out the wide variety of
emotions first through writing, taking a walk in nature, or whatever
helps you find peace.Then, in a calm and mindful way, start thinking
about what you want to focus on moving forward. Brainstorm and make a
crazy idea sheet! Or perhaps you already know what you are working
toward, and you can use this as a way of strengthening that resolve.
Wherever you are at this point, now is the time to start taking steps to
Seeds for Meaningful Relationship
When you dream of a relationship that makes
your heart overflow with enthusiasm, what are the key elements? Keep track of
these items. Who do you really want to be in your
relationship? What would you like to let go of (literally or emotionally)?
What adventures or accomplishments would be really exciting and fulfilling to
experience together? Plant seeds (emotionally) for all of this and more. We can
accomplish so much more than just cleaning out our living spaces and getting
better organized. We can create the life of our dreams. Start by day dreaming…
the Details, and Focus on How You Feel Love
of your head and into your heart, spirit and soul. Focus on what brings you joy
and happiness — more than the details of height, hair color, eye color,
profession or mode of transportation. Connect with the soul of your
soon-to-be-loved-one. Isn’t that what all this is really about?
your inner knowing, and choose the advisor that calls out to you for
confirmation and additional insights.
Due to this pandemic,
you may feel like your relationships are in a unique place right now. Many
couples who don’t live together may find that you cannot see each other as
often. Likewise, couples who do live together may find it challenging to adjust
to spending even more time together at home. Learn how you and your
partner can continue to grow your connection during these
Couples Who Live Apart
Couples who live apart
can still stay connected while practicing responsible social distancing. When
deciding on how you will connect during this time, there are a few questions to
ask your partner:
- How often should we see each
- How can we practice safe social
distancing while seeing each other?
- Should we wait to see each
other in person?
- What ways do you like to
connect while being apart?
understanding of how you both plan on connecting is an important part of
staying on the same page when living through this pandemic. You and your
partner may decide it’s best to wait to see each other in person later. If you
decide this, you can connect through video chat or phone call. You could also
get creative and send each other handwritten letters or
Couples Who Live Together
Couples who live
together may begin to feel bored with the monotony of staying home every day.
Shake things up by figuring out how well you know your partner. Use
this as a time to ask each other deep questions to learn even
more about one another. Here are some interesting questions to ask:
- What is your first memory?
- Do you have any hidden talents?
- Do you think everything happens
for a reason?
- What has our relationship
This pandemic may
create obstacles for all kinds of couples. The main thing to remember during
these times is that you and your partner need to regularly communicate
and check in with each other.